It is a difficult time for Israel and for everyone who cares about the future of the Middle East. We are geographically removed from the horror of war unfolding in Israel, but we are not psychologically protected from the trauma. We must approach conversations with children understanding that they are emotionally vulnerable. Even far-away events can feel close to the heart.
The outbreak of war in Israel and the Gaza Strip has led to numerous casualties and injuries on both sides. The attack is being broadcast on TV and social media. Children need only glance at a grown-up’s phone to see horrific images. Even geographically remote wars viewed through a screen can feel proximate, touching children who have never personally experienced violence.
We must give children ample space and opportunities to ask questions, voice their fears and concerns, and have those fears and concerns validated by the trusted adults in their lives. We must also create and reinforce emotional safety anchors for our children, which, when children are faced with uncertainty and fear, can bring them back to where they need to be. Day-day routines and relationships with family members and friends are crucial to helping children feel safe.
The following is a (non-exhaustive) list of resources for educators, parents, caregivers, and others who work and live with children.
*adapted from an email sent by Perelman Jewish Day School
For Elementary/Middle School Students
- Resilience in a time of war: Tips for parents and teachers of elementary school children: American Psychological Association article to help adults guide their young children.
- Talking to Kiddos About News in Israel from Makom Community
For All Ages
- How to Talk to Kids About Violence, Crime, and War: Common Sense Media gathers tips and conversation starters to help you talk to kids of different ages about the toughest topics.
- Talking to Your Kids About War: Ways families can speak with young people about war, including tips on sharing information and restricting media coverage.
- How to Talk to Your Children About Conflict and War: UNICEF’s guide offers eight tips to support and comfort your children.
- Israel Resources: jkidphilly
Under the column title “Learn” you will find links to numerous articles and blogs about talking with children about Israel. - Talking to your Children about Israel in a Time of Crisis, Jewish Education Project
- How to talk to your children about violence in Israel, Jewish Education Project
- Diverse Narratives, iCenter, an organization committed to transforming the professional field of Israel Education
- Videos to Help Parents and Kids Talk About Scary Situations , PJ Library
- Resources for Talking about Israel with Children with Cognitive Disabilities, Jewish Disability Inclusion News/Matan
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For Teens: Israel at War, Caring for Ourselves and One Another, Moving Traditions
- For Teens: The Israel Hamas War Resources, bronfman.org
- Talking with Kids About Anti-Semitism, temple-sholom.org
General Resources
- Find non-traditional prayers for peace in Israel from Ritualwell
- To follow what is happening in Israel: Jewish Telegraph Agency
- Click to read the statement from the Jewish Federation of Greater Philadelphia.
As always, if you have questions and/or are seeking further support, please reach out to us.